It’s 4pm on a Thursday, and a man on Grindr just asked if you’re looking for any ffun or if you’re ‘into ff’. Before you go elbow deep into the unknown, it’s important to know this is no typo.
In the gay world, any time you see “ff” it refers to fisting fun. For those with bootyholes like a Jim Henson original, fisting is all the rage. You can count on one hand the number of fingers these fist enthusiasts want to take straight to the colon.
If you’re still wondering what fisting is, then you may be used to seeing plenty of Fs on your report card. We can help. Fisting, as the name suggests, is the sexual act of inserting one’s entire hand (or fist) into a receiving partner. From there, it’s a matter of will to see how much more arm a fisting bottom can take. Some stick to a wrist length for a sock puppet effect, while others can take it beyond the elbow for a truly immersive experience.
Fisting fits under the BDSM (bondage & sado-masochism) umbrella. Despite being a somewhat extreme kink, it is extremely popular. If you need proof, simply check your local Sniffies map for a bevy of proud fist pigs.
Taking a fist is not for the faint of heart, or tight of hole. This is for experienced bottoms, and should be done with a level of care so as not to injure oneself. Anyone who’s gotten an anal fissure from an overly enthusiastic top knows that pain, but taking a punch to your prostate could really do some damage.
In order to fist, there’s also an extra level of preparation needed. According to Healthline.com, the average penis is about 5-5.5 inches. Holding your fist in front of your face, you can probably tell it’s considerably bigger. This means a fisting top will go deeper than they might with their junk, requiring a deeper cleaning process.
A shower shot is the ideal cleaning kit. This turns your home shower into a fully functioning high power douche with an endless water supply. Simply apply lube, and get it up there until the water runs clean. Some fisters prefer a deeper clean, however doctors have found excessive douching can cause a litany of health problems. While we appreciate the commitment to cleanliness, your hole health should always take first priority.
Like with any strenuous physical activity, stretching is a must for fisters. It’s suggested one use a toy like a dildo or an anal plug, and the bigger the better. When using a toy, you have much more control than you do with a partner who could make a wrong move and potentially hurt you.
Once it’s time for your grand opening, take things slow. J-lube is a necessity. This lubricant comes in a powder form you can mix with water to create a more viscous jell than your standard silicone or water based lubricant. J-lube keeps the hand well lubricated throughout the process, so there’s rarely a need to reapply. Be warned, the stuff does not wash off (or out) easily. Lay down towels or you’ll need to replace your sheets.
Then your naughty ventriloquism act is ready to begin. As with any form of penetration, the top should make an effort to help loosen up their partner. Using their tongue, fingers, or toys is a great way to start, and establish a shared sense of trust. Never just shove the whole thing in there. The ideal entry position for tops is with all their fingers together to create a point. Once the receiving partner is capable of taking that, the top can curl their hand into a fist, and really get to punch fucking.
The gay community loves fisters, and it’s even part of the hanky code. Men would wear their red kerchiefs with pride to let others know what them hands do.
So whether you’re an experienced fist pig, or Babe first time fist pig in the city just know your body’s limits. This is a perfectly safe consensual sexual activity that plenty of people enjoy, and now you can too.
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